Find yourself someone who…

Been feeling a lot of gratitude for Justin lately and thinking a lot about what actually makes a relationship last.

A lot of the things in this reel matter…staying grounded enough to still legitimately enjoy Taco Bell or Skyline Chili together 20+ years later might be underrated, tbh! 😂

But, I think more than anything, it’s this: feeling like you’re on the same team…always. That feeling of being in it together: us vs. the world, in the best way.

Justin & I met at 18 and definitely didn’t and couldn’t know everything life would bring…but we knew life felt better with each other than without (even, and sometimes especially, when we weren’t at our best).

The highs felt higher, and the hard things felt more manageable when we turned toward each other to navigate them together.

I think that’s the part people overcomplicate, and what’s far more important than some perfect checklist.

It’s actually a lot like fitness—and yes I know I make everything into a fitness metaphor but stick with me here 😂— there’s no “best” plan; there’s the one you’ll actually keep showing up for.

Relationships are similar.

You won’t always feel in love, just like you won’t always feel motivated to train. 🤷‍♀️

But if you choose someone your nervous system feels safe, steady and supported around…it becomes a lot easier and more enjoyable to keep showing up.

And over time, that commitment to consistency is what builds something strong.💪

Feelings follow action. In the gym and in life.

Muscles don’t benefit from confusion, and I suspect hearts don’t either. 🙅‍♀️💜